Helping Someone Through A Breakup

It can be difficult to know exactly what you should do when someone close to you has gotten in a breakup; after all, it might upset them if you talk them through it, or you may find that it upsets them if you sit back and say nothing at all. You will have to feel things out and know exactly what is the right approach to take when you are close to someone who has recently gone through a breakup, making decisions based on what you know about them, but as you walk through that process, here are a few helpful things for you to keep in mind.

You will usually find that the person who has gone through the breakup will need someone with whom they can talk, and what they need for this person to do is listen, rather than for this person to jump in and give all sorts of advice, so when you find yourself in this situation with someone you are close to, be prepared to simply sit and listen.

They may truly want to have some advice from you, and if this is the case, they will typically ask for it; other times, they will want to hear what sounds like advice, but what they really want is for you to echo what they want to hear - so be aware of how they are feeling, and tell them what they are wanting to hear!

Of course, you might have plenty of good opinions and advice that you can share with them also, but recognize that there will be a time for giving them these opinions and this advice, and the time is probably not "now," when they are upset about the breakup; hold onto your thoughts, and save them for a time when your friend is ready to hear it.

When someone goes through a tough breakup, one thing they usually need is a good friend who can help them through it, and when you take this approach - understanding what to do and what not to do - you can be this friend for them!

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